So, someone could respect your kindness without actually liking you. Kindness goes a long way, and it’s safe to assume most people will have more positive regard for a kind person than an unkind one.īut plenty of factors also affect the way people feel about others, including: Some people hold the belief that as long as they’re kind, people will like them. While effort can sometimes influence others, you ultimately can’t control anyone else’s choices or needs. But it just doesn’t always work out that way. Without this expectation, you might feel less motivated to try. Most people want to believe that effort pays off, and that’s understandable. When your annual review comes up, you get plenty of positive feedback but only a small salary bump. You give 100 percent, volunteering to help coworkers and speaking up with new ideas.Īnd yet, someone with more seniority gets that promotion. Maybe when you show up at work, you really show up. It’s a common belief that throwing yourself into something will yield positive results. Other expectations, like the ones below, might be slightly less grounded in reality.
For example, this would be a perfectly realistic expectation: “With good communication, my partner and I can work out most minor relationship conflicts.” Some of your hopes might reflect things you can absolutely achieve.
This unbridled optimism often leads couples to forego prenuptial agreements, which could offer the opportunity for more vulnerable halves of couples to protect themselves.When do hope and optimism become unrealistic expectations? There’s no cut-and-dried answer, but looking at some common examples can offer some insight.īut first, let’s clarify what expectations are: They’re things you want to achieve or believe life will grant you. The question of the official institution of marriage notwithstanding, libertarian paternalism offers new ways of looking at the old rules of people’s attachments to each other.Īs we learned in Chapter 1, most people know that 50% of marriages end in divorce, yet nearly 0% of newlyweds think theirs will. Despite the widely known health risks, smokers tend to believe that they’re less likely to get lung cancer than nonsmokers, and gay men systematically underestimate their likelihood of contracting AIDS. Where unrealistic optimism becomes problematic is, for example, in the areas of personal health.
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Ninety percent of drivers believe their driving skills are above-average 94% of professors at a large university believed they were above-average professors and most newlyweds believe their chances of divorcing are near zero (even though 50% of marriages end in divorce). Even though the students understand that only 10% of the class will be in the top decile and only 50% of the class will be in the top five deciles-these students are MBAs and get the basic math- typically less than 5% of the class believes its grade will fall below the median and more than 50% believes its final grade will fall in the top two deciles!Įxamples of this type abound. Before the class begins, Thaler has his students fill out a survey that invites them to predict in which decile their final grade for the course will fall. Thaler offers an example from his class in Managerial Decision Making. What Is Unrealistic Optimism?Įven when faced with the statistical likelihood of failure or mediocrity, individual humans persist-predictably-in believing themselves the exception to these statistics.
Read more about unrealistic optimism and how it affects decisions. Even when probability indicates otherwise, people usually believe they’re the exception. Unrealistic optimism is the way that people assume that things will work out in their favor. What is unrealistic optimism? Is it problematic?
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